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Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children
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Release Date: February 2008
Page Count: 224
Size: 5 1/2 x 8 1/2
Binding: Perfectbound
ISBN: 978-0-7369-2135-0
Case Lot Quantity: 52

Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children

Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents

This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones.

Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text.

A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives.

  • S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money
  • A = Assemble a Support Group
  • N = Nip Excuses in the Bud
  • I = Implement Rules/Boundaries
  • T = Trust Your Instincts
  • Y = Yield Everything to God

Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)

Meet the author

Allison Bottke

Allison Bottke

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of...

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Editorial Reviews

Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children will benefit those prepared to change the cycle of destructive behavior in their families.”
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“This book is recommended for those parents who are facing this difficult life situation.”

“It is refreshing to read a book that is written from experience with honesty and godliness. Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children stepped on my toes. It will probably step on the toes of others as well. Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is a serious, well–written manual. Bottke’s book will bless many.”

“I appreciate Bottke’s tough love approach in this practical book and identifying the difference between helping and enabling was an eye opener!”
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“I highly recommend Allison’s book, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. I’m not even going to attempt to rate it with my bookmark scale, because the message is too powerful, too needed, too important to trivialize it with a rating.”

“I highly recommend this book. It will change your life.”

“Every parent should read Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children and keep it within easy access. Each time one reads part of the book it helps them to take control of their life again and not feel we ‘owe’ our children anything.”
The Midwest Book Review

Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children by Allison Bottke is an empowering book about letting your children go...The advice is solid, as are the quizzes she uses to help the reader determine if they are enablers. My children aren’t adults yet, but in reading, I did see several areas where I could end up enabling them in the future if I don’t take steps now. Bottke offers hope to parents who are at the end of their rope and don’t know where to turn.”

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12/21/14 Sabrina Adam

“As a mother of three children (20, 17, and 11), and teacher for 20 years, I only wish that I had read this book 15 years ago. The truths are invaluable. Thank you for writing a book that should be read by every parent.”

12/21/14 Cindy Rich

“As the mother of five children and two step children, the youngest of whom has been in and out of prison for several years now, this book has been a blessing for me. It’s almost as though she knew my very thoughts, and would reach down and help me to pull them to the forefront to deal with them in a different way. I pray that parents everywhere will be able to read this book, it will be a definite help to them. I do believe that this is the time for this book to reach the far corners of this country. This book can reach out and make so many of us keep going, keep praying, and keep believing that God will have mercy on our loved ones and save them.  “My prayers go to all the mothers out there who have been going through this nightmare for years, such as I, and the ones that this is the first time for them. Trust in God to get through this, and do yourself a favor, get this book and keep it close to you, you’ll need it.”

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"If you've experienced the sweet relief of sudden shade after foolishly attempting to cross scorching hot pavement barefoot, expect the same sweet emotional comfort from Bottke's book."
Marion Bond West, author of Praying for My Life

"Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is packed full of practical, useable, workable ideas and is a welcome tool for parents of grown children, and parents in pain. I know many families will be helped, and many parents will feel like their sanity and their life has been given back to them."
Pam Farrel, bestselling author of Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti and The 10 Best Decisions Every Parent Can Make

"Allison Bottke's transparent writing jumped off the pages and into my heart. I didn't feel looked down on or preached to while reading. Instead, I experienced a bond with a woman who has the guts to show us, 'This is where I've been. This is how crazy it got. We don't have to live this way.' She puts those beautiful life-changing Twelve Steps back inside me where they belong."
Julie Garmon, freelance writer

"From the opening pages of this book, readers know Allison Bottke understands firsthand the struggle which parents have setting boundaries with their adult children. This book combines the personal stories from Allison with practical hands-on help to escape the insanity and move toward hope and healing. She mixes her own heart-stirring experiences with sage advice from many others. This book is easy to read and yet for some will involve tears. It is a much needed resource that hopefully counselors and many others will read, then recommend to others."
W. Terry Whalin, author of more than 60 books

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